Wednesday, June 29, 2005

therapy: session one

i have asked myself before what a blog is and what it is for. today, i found out while reasearching about a different topic -- burnout. i chanced upon some sites which mentions both burnout and weblogging *light bulb*.

yoda: weblogging leads to blogging, blogging leads to blog.

anyway, there was an article about bloggers suffering burnout and that some people "blog away" burnouts.

i think there's some truth in them. i don't believe that all bloggers are burnt out, but there could be a handful (like some people i know who has two blog sites and could not even update them *nooninooninoo*) then, you can read how most bloggers rant or rave about the things that are happening in their lives. so this is not really far from what i first wrote -- blog = free therapy!

ok enough introductions, here goes my first therapy session:

recently, i resigned from my five-long-years-second-job. i was really experiencing major stress. one time i just broke down because i was not able to send out my laundry.

reader: whaaaaaaaaat?!?

yeah, right! but it did happen. i was so tied up with work that i didn't have time to do anything else. i realized all this one saturday when i couldn't go out for lunch because i had to go to work. but then, i couldn't pull out any clean or decent clothes from my wardrobe. i just burst into tears *major self-pity*

i knew i needed to do something. i was lucky i had a scheduled vacation. but i knew that wasn't enough. so i quit my job, went to boracay, then to bohol, and rested for a few more weeks. but i had to get a new job, i hated the idea, but i had to if i want to survive.

i admit that i'm very lucky to get a job. but somehow, it doesn't feel right. at first, everything seems to be going well. then as each day passed i was starting to lose interest with my work again. i feel bored. sometimes i can't sleep at night not knowing why. everyday i have to drag myself to work (that is if i could at all).


now i'm still at a lost. my contract is almost over and i still don't know what to do next... "que sera, sera..."

burnout prevention and recovery

1. STOP DENYING. Listen to the wisdom of your body. Begin to freely admit the stresses and pressures which have manifested physically, mentally, or emotionally.
MIT VIEW: Work until the physical pain forces you into unconsciousness.

2. AVOID ISOLATION. Don't do everything alone! Develop or renew intimacies with friends and loved ones. Closeness not only brings new insights, but also is anathema to agitation and depression.
MIT VIEW: Shut your office door and lock it from the inside so no one will distract you. They're just trying to hurt your productivity.

3. CHANGE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES. If your job, your relationship, a situation, or a person is dragging you under, try to alter your circumstance, or if necessary, leave.
MIT VIEW: If you feel something is dragging you down, suppress these thoughts. This is a weakness. Drink more coffee.

4. DIMINISH INTENSITY IN YOUR LIFE. Pinpoint those areas or aspects which summon up the most concentrated intensity and work toward alleviating that pressure.
MIT VIEW: Increase intensity. Maximum intensity = maximum productivity. If you find yourself relaxed and with your mind wandering, you are probably having a detrimental effect on the recovery rate.
5. STOP OVERNURTURING. If you routinely take on other people's problems and responsibilities, learn to gracefully disengage. Try to get some nurturing for yourself.
MIT VIEW: Always attempt to do everything. You ARE responsible for it all. Perhaps you haven't thoroughly read your job description.
6. LEARN TO SAY "NO". You'll help diminish intensity by speaking up for yourself. This means refusing additional requests or demands on your time or emotions.
MIT VIEW: Never say no to anything. It shows weakness, and lowers the research volume. Never put off until tomorrow what you can do at midnight.
7. BEGIN TO BACK OFF AND DETACH. Learn to delegate, not only at work, but also at home and with friends. In this case, detachment means rescuing yourself for yourself.
MIT VIEW: Delegating is a sign of weakness. If you want it done right, do it yourself (see #5).
8. REASSESS YOUR VALUES. Try to sort out the meaningful values from the temporary and fleeting, the essential from the nonessential. You'll conserve energy and time, and begin to feel more centered.
MIT VIEW: Stop thinking about your own problems. This is selfish. If your values change, we will make an announcement at the Corporation meeting. Until then, if someone calls you and questions your priorities, tell them that you are unable to comment on this and give them the number for Community and Government Relations. It will be taken care of.
9. LEARN TO PACE YOURSELF. Try to take life in moderation. You only have so much energy available. Ascertain what is wanted and needed in your life, then begin to balance work with love, pleasure, and relaxation.
MIT VIEW: A balanced life is a myth perpetuated by liberal arts schools. Don't be a fool: the only thing that matters is work and productivity.
10. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY. Don't skip meals, abuse yourself with rigid diets, disregard your need for sleep, or break the doctor appointments. Take care of yourself nutritionally.
MIT VIEW: Your body serves your mind, your mind serves the Institute. Push the mind and the body will follow. Drink Mountain Dew.
11. DIMINISH WORRY AND ANXIETY. Try to keep superstitious worrying to a minimum - it changes nothing. You'll have a better grip on your situation if you spend less time worrying and more time taking care of your real needs.
MIT VIEW: If you're not worrying about work, you must not be very committed to it. We'll find someone who is.
12. KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR. Begin to bring job and happy moments into your life. Very few people suffer burnout when they're having fun.
MIT VIEW: So, you think you work is funny? We'll discuss this with your director on Friday, at 7:00 P.M.!

SOURCE: http://web.mit.edu/afs/athena.mit.edu/user/w/c/wchuang/News/college/MIT-views.html